Addiction recovery is full of roadblocks and challenges, but if you hate being sober and resent the fact that you can’t drink or drug, this doesn’t necessarily mean that sobriety isn’t for you. Instead, it could be a sign that your mind and heart are not in the right place.
If you’re miserable being sober, there are likely some underlying issues that you need to address. No matter how hopeless it may seem, there are several ways you can work to change your outlook on life, enjoy sobriety, and experience fulfillment in recovery. Here are five ways to change your outlook on a sober life.
1. Challenge yourself to fully engage in treatment.
If you’re currently enrolled in a drug rehab program, sitting on the sidelines isn’t doing you any favors. Although it can be challenging and scary to talk about your personal experience with addiction, being vulnerable can help increase your confidence and self-worth, improve your motivation to change, and help you process any personal issues that are preventing you from experiencing a satisfying sober life. Fully engaging in your treatment program will also allow you to reap the benefits of the wisdom and advice of others while learning how to communicate effectively.
2. Deal with personal issues.
Just because you’re sober, doesn’t mean you can ignore personal issues like fear, anxiety, or painful emotions. These things can contribute to relapse and general feelings of unhappiness, even if you’re sober. Instead of putting these issues on the back burner, drug rehab, individual therapy, or an aftercare program can be an excellent opportunity to deal with them. Learning how to feel comfortable in your own skin is just as important as learning how to cope with high-risk situations and triggers to prevent relapse.
3. Consider what you’ve gained instead of what you’ve lost.
While you may miss out on some parties or lose some friends when you get sober, but it’s important to remember all that you have gained too. Giving up alcohol and drugs is a lifestyle change that requires you to change your behaviors, your mindset, and your attitudes. In the process, you may have to give up the instant gratification that addictive substances provide, but you gain so much more. As a sober person, you gain self-esteem, self-respect, confidence, and peace of mind, not to mention genuine, lasting relationships that positively enhance your life.
4. Get social.
Recovering from addiction in isolation can be lonely and depressing. Without peer support, a life of sobriety can easily be derailed by triggers, cravings, and relapses. Just as isolation can be harmful to sobriety, regular engagement with sober peers is essential to a fulfilling life in recovery. Getting social can provide opportunities to build healthy relationships that are real and authentic and learn how to have fun without drugs or alcohol. Adjusting to a sober life isn’t easy, but it’s much more manageable and enjoyable when you share the struggle with peers who have similar life experiences and want to support you in your journey to recovery.
5. Keep an open mind.
Life isn’t always what we expect it to be and your expectations for sobriety may have been far from your current reality. Unfortunately, there is no secret recipe for living a sober, happy life, but if you keep an open mind and be patient and persistent, you’ll eventually figure out what works for you. The ups and downs of sobriety can be challenging in many ways, but maintaining a positive outlook on life and being present to deal with the many challenges life throws your way will help you develop self-efficacy and confidence that will get you through the not-so-fun stages of recovery.
If you hate sobriety, you may need additional support on a personal level. At Eudaimonia Recovery Homes, we offer sober living homes and programs that are designed to help you establish a sustainable lifestyle of sobriety.
With recovery support services such as regular drug and alcohol testing, a three-phase program to help you reach your sobriety goals, employment, volunteer, and education assistance, and a peer recovery support program, we can offer the personalized care you need to move forward in sobriety.
You don’t have to be unhappy sober. Let us help you pick up the pieces and establish a sober life full of gratitude and fulfillment. Call (512) 363-5914 to get started today.